When you are grieving it is important to look after yourself:

• Get as much rest as possible and try to get back into good sleeping patterns
• Gentle exercise helps. Try to get out into the fresh air and take a short walk each day
• Slow down and give yourself permission to let go of some of your responsibilities
• Try to eat small nutritious meals even if you have little appetite
• Resuming some of your usual activities as you are ready
• Being gentle with yourself and taking time out to do things you like
• Giving yourself time to talk and share your feelings
• Having time to be alone
• Accepting help from family and friends
• Talking to other parents who have had a child die
• Talking about your child and keeping them a part of your family
• Creating a memory book or box for all those special belongings and photos
• Planting a tree or garden, donating,  establishing a memorial or developing a research or support group 
• Keeping a journal or a diary
• Treat yourself or do something that you enjoy or that keeps you busy
• Avoid overusing alcohol and non-prescription drugs
• Give yourself permission to grieve and be happy sometimes
• It can help to prepare ahead for some of the questions people may ask