What will my child look like?

This is a question that most parents think about or ask as they try to prepare themselves for what is ahead. While you may feel nervous initially, this mostly lessens as you spend time with your child. 

Your child’s body will feel different to touch and will start to cool. Almost all parents comment on how peaceful and beautiful their child looks. Bear Cottage staff will be there to provide information and support.

Saying goodbye to your child 

After your child has died it is important to have the opportunity to spend time with them. This is a time that you can, if you wish, just be with your child, to touch, hold and cuddle your child. You may have decided who you would like to be with you at this time. 

After your child dies you and your family can stay with them at Bear Cottage. You may wish to wash, dress or spend time with your child. You may like to do this yourself, with the help of staff, family and friends or allow someone else to do this for you. 

Bear Cottage staff can stay with you and if you wish, can take hand and/or footprints, photos and a lock of hair. These can be taken with you, or kept at Bear Cottage until you feel ready to collect them. Bear Cottage will transfer your child to our special room during this time. Many families find this comforting. Of course this is a very individual choice. Staff will discuss your thoughts and preferences with you. 

Contacting a funeral director 

When you are ready, our staff can assist you to contact the Funeral Director of your choice. The Funeral Director will take our child from Bear Cottage to a funeral home. Once your child has left Bear Cottage, it might also be possible for you to see your child again at the Funeral Home with family and friends.

We will endeavour to support you and respect your personal wishes and cultural and spiritual beliefs whenever possible. Please let us know what is important to you and your family.